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Here's what's going on in our lives (if you care): May 2006
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4-24-06: Well, happy childless Monday to everyone. I hope everyone had a good weekend. The good news is, we had another very relaxing weekend. I am telling you, the worst thing you can do is to ask God for patience, because he will teach it to you. Never pray for patience . . .that will be the first lesson we teach our kid. I think the past month has taken us through the whole gamut of emotions. I wish that doctor a month ago would have never said anything about when she thought the baby would be here, because that really got us prepared for an "early" birth. On the record, it is my fault, because I did ask her when she thought he would be here. Anyway, we went from excitement then, to impatience, now we are at frustration, which we shouldn't be. The baby is fine, and so is Hollie, so there is really no reason to worry, he will be here very soon. The main reason we are frustrated is because of the doctor(s) that we see. In our practice, there are 4 doctors. Two of them we really like (our actual doctor, and another one). However, the other 2 (the ones that the practice is owned by) are both c-section happy "this baby might be too big for you to deliver naturally so let's induce ASAP" doctors. They are really pushing us to induce this week, and that is not something we are willing to do. The other doctor that we saw Friday said there was no real reason to induce until at least next week. That is great, however, that does add some complication. If we deliver after next Sunday, we have to change hospitals, because our doctor loses her privileges at the hospital we will be using at the end of the month. On top of all that, the doctors we really don't care for are the doctors on call tomorrow and Wednesday. So, that does add a little anxiety. However, I am prepared for this, and Hollie is prepared. We know exactly what to do (for being our first birth) and are as prepared as we can be. I know the doctors may push to do things on their schedule, and do things the "normal" way, however, we are dedicated to a natural, drug-free birth, and we will stick with that. It is my job to take care of the doctors and Hollie's job to have that baby, so as long as we stick to the plan all will go well, I have no doubt. On to the second thing that is just really wearing thin. How come when you become pregnant, everyone you know becomes an expert on birth and pregnancy? Everyone knows what is best, and everyone feels it is their responsibility to tell you how stupid you are for trying things that are "out of the ordinary." Last time I checked, God created women's bodies to give birth, and I think they can do it with minimal assistance. I am not talking about people who call to see how we are doing. I am talking about the people who insist on telling us "not to be a hero" or "you get no medal for not using drugs" or my favorite "if you don't hurry up and get induced, you will be forced into a c-section." We are not asking anyone else to carry this baby for us. Hollie is going to give birth the way she wants to, and that is not really going to hurt anyone else. However, everyone feels like they need to give their 2 cents. If you are reading this and feel like you need to tell us why we need to get induced, of feel the need to tell us what we are doing is stupid and wrong, please, keep you comments to yourself, because believe me, we have heard whatever it is you want to say numerous times over the past 9 months (I don't really think any of the people I am talking about regularly read this board, so don't worry, I am probably not talking about you). Anyway, we prayed really hard yesterday just to let God take away our anxiety and stress, and let us enjoy this final part of what has been a really great pregnancy. Truthfully, this pregnancy has been so much fun and been really great for our marriage. It has really made me appreciate Hollie and what she has to go through. The entire pregnancy, we have both really looked forward to the last few days of it, and how much fun the anticipation of "not knowing" would be. We have really gotten away from that, and we have let other people and outside pressure from some doctors ruin it for us. Hopefully we can just let it go and enjoy Hobs while he is still safe inside, where nothing can really get him. Oh well, thanks for sticking with this through my rants and raves. I just needed to get some stuff out. Thanks for reading this and caring what goes on in our lives more or less (can you tell I have been under a little stress lately?) See you all soon.
4-17-06: Well, another week has passed, and no baby. Although there was quiet a bit of anxiety about wanting him to come over the past week, our weekend was great. We got to sit around and just relax. Friday, I had off work. Hollie went in for a little while to fix a problem with her phone, then came home. We had small group at the house Friday night, then just hung out and relaxed. Saturday, we both slept in, then had breakfast on the balcony and sat out there for about an hour and a half. We then came inside and watched a movie. I went to Lowe's to get some knobs for the dresser in the nursery, and Hollie took a nap. I got home, we painted the knobs, then watched some more TV. That night, we ate nachos, sat out on the front porch for a while, then went inside and assembled the rest of the baby stuff (the other stroller, the high chair, the exersaucer, etc). Sunday morning, we slept in again. It is the first Easter we have missed church possibly in our whole life. It was kinda sad, but I didn't think it was a good idea to drag Hollie out into a crowded church. We had breakfast on the balcony again, and spent the rest of the day watching movies and just talking/praying about the baby. It was great. We haven't really gotten to relax like that in a while. We are still waiting not-so-patiently on this baby to come out. We both have friends at work who are due the week after us. Hollie's friend had their baby yesterday, and my friend is at the hospital currently in labor. We sure thought that we would be the first out of the 3 to deliver, but he had different plans. Oh well, the wait continues. We would like him to be here by Wednesday, only because that is Hollie's next appointment, and we know that since that is our due date, that is when the Dr. will start pushing us to intervene medically. Oh well, we will just have to be strong and insist on natural. I am not going to say that "this time next week we will have a baby," because the last 3 times I have said that, nothing happened. So, I will see you next week! (I have changed a couple things with the guestbook since it keeps getting SPAMed, so be patient with it).
4-10-06: Good morning. Well, obviously there is no baby yet. Since day one, Hollie has always said she thought he would come the week of the 14th, and that is this week, so maybe she has been right all along and I am have just been wishful thinking. We have now moved into the guest bedroom. Our bed is pretty high up off the ground, and Hollie is having some trouble getting in and out of it. The guest bed is a regular bed, so that is easier for her. It is fine with me, because the guest bed was mine before we got married, and is the most comfortable bed in the house. Saturday, we got up and ran some errands for Hollie's work. We went to breakfast (at 12:30, so I guess that would be lunch), then to childbirth class for a quick "refresher." After that, we went and bought another car seat base for my car, then I went and played poker. Hollie slept on the couch downstairs and watched movies with Pery while all the guys played poker upstairs. Yesterday, I went to church, then came home and cleaned the house. We watched a movie, then went on a short walk last night. It would have been longer, but Hollie's back is giving her a lot of trouble since the baby is sitting on a nerve, making it very hard for her to walk or get comfortable. She had some pretty strong contractions over the weekend, but nothing other than that. I hope that means that she will be even further along when she goes to the Dr. tomorrow. That would just mean that when she does go into labor, it will hopefully be shorter and easier. I timed the drive to the hospital yesterday morning. Without traffic, it was a 23 minute drive, which is about what we had guessed. We went ahead and finished Hollie's and the baby's bag last night, and loaded it in the car. We are ready to go. I honestly think that we are about as prepared as you can be for this thing. So now we are just playing the waiting game, which I am not very good at. Oh well, I guess I have no choice. Hopefully he will be here this week. At least that is what we are praying for. I will see you all later.
4-6-06: I know this isn't a normal update day, but I wanted to catch everyone up on where we were with this whole thing. Hollie has been swelling very bad lately, and has been having some headaches. We know this can be a sign of toxemia, so we have been taking it easy. She worked from home yesterday, and it really helped the swelling. She went to the Dr. today, and her blood pressure was great!! She admitted that she didn't' work yesterday, and he said "well, that means bed rest works." So, needless to say she is now on bed rest for the remainder of her pregnancy. I think that is a good thing, because yesterday she felt really good after being able to take it easy all day. Anyway, she is still progressing at a good rate. The Dr. said she was doing very well for a 1st time mom. He also said "have we scheduled you for an induction next week yet?" We said we were not going to be induced, and he of course advised otherwise (only because of the size of the baby, everything else is looking good he said). Oh well, this baby will come when he is ready. Hopefully that will be soon. On a brighter note, someone backed into my car today and didn't leave a note. What a great surprise that was. Well, if he doesn't come this weekend, I will see you on Monday.
4-3-06: Well, I was sure hoping that my first post in April would have been a little later and have some pics of our baby, but obviously that is not the case. I have never been a very patient person, and this could be the most impatient I have ever been. I don't think I have ever been in a situation where I was forced to wait on something, and have absolutely no idea when it will happen. Hollie said when the Dr. told us it would probably be last week or this week, that was the worst thing she could have said to me, and she was right (of course I was the one that asked, so it isn't the Dr.'s fault). I would have never expected the baby so soon if it weren't for what she said. Oh well, I will just have to go on being miserable and trust that the baby knows when he needs to come out. Like I said last week, he will probably surprise us all and stay 3 more weeks. Hollie's appointment last week went well. She is continuing to progress. We are really afraid that if the baby doesn't come before Thursday (her next appointment) they will put her on bed rest, and we really don't want that. It turns out that Hollie is Group B Strep positive, which means nothing more than she will have to have antibiotics during labor. We really didn't want ANY drugs or any type of IV, but oh well. We will let them put in the antibiotics, but nothing else through the IV. If we don't get to the hospital more than 4 hours before the baby is born (which we don't want to do), they will keep us an extra 48 hours to monitor the baby, which is fine. Hollie had another shower Saturday for her work, which went well. I stayed home and did yard work most of the weekend. We finally finished the nursery yesterday, which is a huge relief. We are still waiting on the thing to go above the crib. It is a wooden cutout of his name on some railroad tracks. It isn't done yet, but that is the only thing not finished. I posted the pics HERE. That is about all for now. I will, of course, keep the site updated as needed throughout the week should anything happen, but at this rate, I will see you all again next Monday. Have a good one. |